Just because your spouse came out of the closet, doesn’t mean you have to go in. What to do if you’re the straight spouse and your husband or wife declares he/she is gay.I have had several individuals in my divorce coaching practice tell me that their spouse declared they were gay. They felt alone – but this is not a rare event. While Canadian figures are not available, conservative estimates indicate that roughly two million lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) individuals in the United States have married someone of the opposite sex. When these partners come out of the closet, one third of these relationships break up right away, a third stay together for a year and then separate, and another third commit to making it work – although three years later, only half of this last group of relationships are still intact.
Getting through these issues and feelings, and effectively coping can take anywhere from 3 – 6 years to properly heal. Statistics indicate that it takes one year of healing for every five years of marriage. And, once this process takes place, for many, there is a realization that their partner really did marry them out of love, and not to hide in a closet — they fully intended to make it work. So, while these couples cannot be lovers, perhaps they can still be good friends.Roughly two million lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) individuals in the United States have married someone of the opposite sex. When these partners come out of the closet, one third of these relationships break up right away, a third stay together for a year and then separate, and another third commit to making it work – although three years later, only half of this last group of relationships are still intact. Our guest Amity Buxton. Ph.D. http://www.straightspouse.org/home.php , discusses the grieving and healing process the straight spouse experiences upon learning of this revelation. Topics include:
- When a spouse comes out how it impacts the family
- The six stages of recovery
- Children’s reaction to a their parents financial disclosure
- Understanding the healing journey
At The Smart Divorce:We understand that discovering your spouse’s new identity can be a profound shock, leaving you with a myriad of emotions and questions. It’s a journey that you never anticipated, and it’s okay to feel lost and confused. You’re not alone in this. Our team of professionals at The Smart Divorce has guided many individuals through similar situations. We recognize the unique challenges you’re facing as a straight spouse when your partner comes out. The emotional journey can be daunting, but with the right support and strategies, it’s possible to navigate this path with resilience and understanding. We’re here to help you understand the healing journey, which can take anywhere from 3 to 6 years. It’s a process that requires patience and self-care, but remember, it’s okay to seek help. Our team is ready to provide the support you need, from understanding the stages of recovery to managing the impact on your family. You’ve come to our webpage because you’re seeking support and understanding. We encourage you to reach out to us. Let’s start a conversation about how we can assist you in this challenging time. Schedule a Get Acquainted Call with us here. Let’s navigate this journey together, with resilience, understanding, and hope for a brighter future.
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